Self Confidence

Self Confidence is believing in your worth – your abilities, qualities and judgment – and behaving accordingly.

“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”

— Mark Twain

While childhood experiences shape Self-Confidence, genetics and later experiences play even greater roles, and you can leverage both. Many seek therapy to shorten that journey. Self-Confidence develops over time and in response to having the impact you intend to have. Whether you set out to make a friend, make money or make progress toward a degree, it almost doesn’t matter what your goal is. Making a plan to achieve something, then following through to completion creates a feeling of mastery that fuels self-confidence. Success leads to greater confidence and willingness to take risks and set bigger goals in the future. Success breeds success. But no one is good at everything. Confident people set themselves up to succeed by choosing achievable goals that matter to them.

Self Confidence can be learned, and developed by following tips like these from

If you or someone with whom you work exhibit these behaviors, seeking the advice and tips at provides a quick remedy:

  • Negative self-talk and constant self-criticism
  • Being unaware of thought patterns
  • Hypersensitive to feedback
  • Unwilling to take risks
  • Overly concerned about pleasing others
  • Failure to set goals or has a fear of failure

Action learning tips and learning assignments on the job are a click away at

You might also consider (a sampling of suggestions from

McKay, Matthew, and Patrick Fanning. Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining.

Your Self-Esteem. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 3rd edition, 2000.

Seligman, Martin E. P. Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life. New York: Vintage, 2006.

Alberti, Robert E. and Michael Emmons. Your Perfect Right: A Guide to Assertive Living. Atascadero, CA: Impact Publishing; 25th anniversary edition, 1995.

Dale Carnegie. Search on the site for “Confident, Assertive, In Charge: Developing the Attitudes of Leadership.”

Toastmasters International. Search on the site for “public speaking” and “leadership.”

The Leader’s Instituteィ. Search on the site for “overcoming the fear of public speaking.”

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